I almost missed it.
Not the question. The answer.
Tony asked me one evening, quietly, if we were okay. He wasn't picking a fight. He was genuinely asking. Because he'd told me the same story six times and I didn't remember any of it. Because I wasn't showing up the way I used to. Because something felt different and he couldn't figure out what had changed.
My first instinct was to push back.
Of course we're okay. Why would you think we're not okay?
But I knew. I had been paying attention. My heart was fully in it. But nothing was landing. Information was going in and evaporating. And I had been so focused on keeping everything running on the outside that I hadn't stopped to ask why.
Then the fear arrived.
My grandmother passed away from Alzheimer's. And I started wondering if this was something more serious than midlife. Something that didn't have a solution. Something that was only going to get worse.
I didn't say that out loud for a long time.
Because I'm not the woman who says that out loud. I'm the woman who pushes harder when things get difficult. Who finds a way. Who does not sit down and become one of those women who moans and groans about how midlife ruined everything.
But quietly... I was terrified.
Tony and I talked for a long time that night. And he told me that as long as my heart was still in it, so was his. That we were going to figure it out together.
So I came to work.
I looked everywhere for something that could help. A supplement built for women like me. High-achieving. Not willing to accept cognitive decline as a personality trait. Not interested in a product built for women who had already given up.
I couldn't find it. So I built it.
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The moment I knew it was working was not what I expected.
It was a quiet morning when I realized I hadn't been to the tea kettle six times before noon. That was it. That was the first sign.
And then I sat there and thought about it. And realized I was remembering things. Sleeping better. Actually retaining conversations. Actually present.
I had been so consumed by what I was losing that I almost didn't notice what was coming back.
If you're reading this and something is nagging at you... if you've been pushing harder and harder and wondering why it isn't working the way it used to... you're not broken. You're not losing your mind. And you do not have to become someone you're not to get through this.
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With Gratitude,
Sue